Monday in Holy Week – Joy

Happiness has become a big industry. Books and podcasts on happiness abound and wellness gurus on social media are all telling us how we can find it. In our society, people are trying to measure happiness, promote happiness, and commodify happiness. And this is not a trivial matter in a country where 1 in 6 people report mental health problems such as depression or anxiety. Happiness is elusive for many and the impact on society is immense. And so making people happy is the preoccupation of corporations, of the health service, of governments, and of academics.

I have two colleagues at the LSE who have made their name in the field of happiness. Richard Layard has for years made the economic case for cognitive behavioural therapy and mindfulness as mechanisms of managing our negative emotions. Paul Dolan is a behavioural psychologist who argues that we should reject popular ideas about what success and fulfilment look like to define our own paths to happiness.

There is wisdom in both their contributions. But I have to say I am nervous about any attempt to improve our lives by avoiding or supressing what is difficult and painful. There is a danger that happiness today is built on various forms of denial. Suppressing negative emotions doesn’t make them go away. Ignoring the things that bring us sorrow and pain does not make those things any less real. This is true individually as we assess our own wellbeing, and it’s true for us as a human species. In so many areas we seem to prefer to drift towards denial of our problems rather than confront them. I’m thinking of course of the climate emergency, but also of global inequality or of the dangers posed by AI. None of these things, taken seriously, should make us entirely happy.

One of the things I find quite distinctive about Christianity as a worldview is its rigorous impatience with fantasies that deny difficulty. The rich man who comes to Jesus would prefer to stay in denial about the obstacles his wealth poses rather than give them up. In a shocking passage in the gospels, Jesus associates Peter with Satan when he tries to deny the path of suffering that Jesus must walk. Even some of the people whom Jesus heals like blind Bartimaeus and the paraplegic at the Pool of Bethesda are challenged to think about whether they truly want to be made well, perhaps so they are not in denial about the difficulty that comes with losing these identities of dependence and the livelihoods they have built on them. Jesus won’t let us run away from what is difficult, just as he knew that he could not run away in denial from his own cup of suffering as he prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane.

It is no wonder Christianity has been criticised throughout history as promoting misery and denying people happiness. In the first century the followers of Epicurius rejected the Christian focus on self-control and moral judgment in favour of the pursuit of sensual pleasure. In the 19th Century, Friedrich Nietzsche argued that Christianity was “against health, beauty, well-being, intellect, kindness of soul—against life itself.”

Christianity does not make you happy they all argue. And if happiness is built on denial of the difficult and the negative, then they are right. But Christianity believes in something much bigger than happiness and this is called joy.

Joy is what we encounter when we don’t turn away from the difficulties of life, but when we’re able to place them within a bigger frame of meaning and transformation. Joy is not the avoidance of suffering, but the knowledge that suffering is not a dead end, that there is always hope because God is an abundant source of life and healing. Joy is knowing that we can make sense of what is difficult and that we are given the moral resources to confront it.

The great mystics always knew this. For John of the Cross there is no attaining the joy of union with God before first going through the dark night of the soul. Happiness is not running away from what we fear; paradoxically “light is at the heart of the darkness.” For fellow Carmelite Teresa of Avila, there is also no joy without first passing through pain. In her great work The Way of Perfection, only in the final stages of the mystical life does joy overcome pain, and even then it does not fully annihilate it. Pain and difficulty are not destroyed but are engulfed by the vision of transformative grace that the Lord has placed into the contemplative’s hands (36.9).

In understanding the meaning of a joy that is greater than happiness, we are given a wonderful image in the story of Jesus’ anointing at Bethany. The pouring of the costly ointment on Jesus’s feet is a beautiful action and I love the detail that the fragrance filled the whole house. It is so cheering, so delightful; it brings a smile to my lips. We can’t deny there is also an unsettlingly erotic dimension to the story as Mary uses her hair to wipe his feet instead of a towel.

And yet this extravagant gesture was not an act of happiness. We are told that she had saved the perfume for his burial. It was a response to the presence of death, an act of impending sadness.

This is a household that has known great sorrow. In the previous chapter of the gospel, Mary’s brother Lazarus had been dead for four days. It was a house of mourning, and we are told that even Jesus himself wept. But miraculously Lazarus was raised as Jesus proclaimed himself to be the Resurrection and the Life. Mary has learnt that with Jesus, death is not the end. Darkness and struggle are not eradicated, but can be made sense of and confronted with the powerful love and hope that permeate this household just like the fragrance of the nard.

So I believe this anointing is not motivated by happiness, but it is an act of joy. It is a celebration of Mary’s love and gratitude for Jesus, even as she anticipates and fears his death. And it is, therefore, a prefiguring of the joy of the resurrection, which will not bring Jesus fully back to her in the same way – he will bear his wounds as he ascends to the Father. But it will overcome the pain of the cross that she has journeyed through and allow her and the other disciples to see a new world infused with possibility and hope.

Mental health and negative feelings are a complicated matter that can’t be generalised about and can’t be comprehensively dealt with in a sermon. But as we search after this elusive happiness as a society, I can’t help feeling we would do much better if we stopped trying to exclude the dark and the difficult from our view. Instead we need to attend to our pain and our fears, and interpret them within a larger framework of meaning and hope. Whether or not we are able to find happiness within our personal lives, it seems to me impossible to look at so much of what is going on in the world today and respond with happiness.

But I do believe we can have a disposition of joy, because whatever happens – with our economy, with our international relations, with our fragile climate – we can find hope in the pursuit of God’s purposes, we can find hope in the knowledge of God’s transforming presence among us, and above all we can find hope in the knowledge that God is God and as Julian of Norwich wrote so famously, “all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.”